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okay, I have this friend that I have known for almost five years now. She at one time considered me as her best friend and I was there for her a lot through whatever, but for the past month, she has been acting funny towards me for no reason at all. I mean, she's pregnant. and I'm suppose to be the godmother of her unborn baby, and I have tried to call and message her more than once, but I get no returns. I don't want it to seem like she has the upper hand if I beg her to tell me what is wrong, its like I am trying to show that I want to be there, but it feels like that I am almost non exsitant. should I just let it go or what?
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Yeah just let it go. No te enojes con ella. Si necesita tu ayuda, ayudala. Its so simple. Leave her alone and if she asks you for help, just help her out.
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YEA WUT GHOST SAID...

DAS IF U DONT WANNA BE A BITCH 2 HER JUST LIKE SHES BEIN WIT U..
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Well, you could ask her if there's a problem (that's not giving her an upper hand in anything .. that is what you call being a friend) - call or text her whatever - if she doesn't respond, then do what Ghost said and just be there for her. Some people are just really "different" when they're pregnant!!
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I would get tired of tying and give up!
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I just wanted to add that you honestly don't know if she's going thru something or whatever .. I'd wait it out and see what happens .. at least that's what a "real" friend would do!!
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Yea I know what you mean. I guess it would depend on how close we were.
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I've seen this happen before. It's likely not anything you are doing, Firme.

You'd be surprised at how a gal who is normally soooo sweet gets all loca when she's about to get married, or have a baby. It's happened to many of my friends. If she really means a lot to you, just wait it out.
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i dont know. maybe she is goin through somethin reguardin her pregnancy , and maybe she doesnt think ppl will understand, yea just wait it out but also u should ask if there is a problem. get everythin out in the open.
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well, i tried to call her and leave her a message to ask her to call me back, she'll talk to everyone else but me and she'll add people that are on my friends list on hers as if she knows them.. wtf? different wen she's pregnant, im sorry I don't get that.. can any1 explain that in simplified terms, im kind of slow at the moment, thats an honest thought. im startin to come to the conclusion that she doesn't even care, ill wait it out nd see if she requests me as a friend again or not.. cuz i deleted her this morning, i was fed up with trying at the moment.
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okay, I have this friend that I have known for almost five years now. She at one time considered me as her best friend and I was there for her a lot through whatever, but for the past month, she has been acting funny towards me for no reason at all. I mean, she's pregnant. and I'm suppose to be the godmother of her unborn baby, and I have tried to call and message her more than once, but I get no returns. I don't want it to seem like she has the upper hand if I beg her to tell me what is wrong, its like I am trying to show that I want to be there, but it feels like that I am almost non exsitant. should I just let it go or what?

sorry to hear this.. its fucked up... u've been here for her since day one and shes payin you like this ... but girl yeah...just ignore it for know .. and see what happens....
or ask another friend to find out for you and ask her why she don't want to speack to you????

girl just don't take it to the head for atleast a while... see what happends if you keep ignoring her.......

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New update: now she told my friend a few days ago, that she is sorry? what do i tell her? but, i dont know if i should say anything at all. cuz she had the baby, nd i was supposed to be the godmother and i found out through someone else that she had him.
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I don't want it to seem like she has the upper hand if I beg her to tell me what is wrong



, its like I am trying to show that I want to be there, but it feels like that I am almost non exsitant. should I just let it go or what?
First off all true friends have no need 4 that....fuk the pride...no worry ur putting urself behind some bars 2 protect 4rm what u think she might do....and it might hurt u. ect....but then again who am i 2 judge and draw conclusions...

but anyways...well what I would do is...dejala if she needs u pues she'll call u...si no just do ur part if she doesnt answer, reply...pues ya nimodo sometimes we go through phases in life where we just tend 2 get a bit selfish and forget about the 1's that been there...but like in a relationship...if is meant 2 b eventually she'll hit u up...and all will b good...yall can talk yalls stuff out....out...si no well i know it may hurt and u might even get mad cause u been there 4 her and this is how she repays u?....b humble bout it...humans r humans....were not all perfect...like i said soon enough she'll rrealize her mistake and get back at u....and if she doesnt...well dont hol dno grudge...theyre like venom...just let it go....just know deep inside that u did ur best 2 help her....and b ready 2 b there 4 her when she needs u....member true friends....hope I was of help....1 love
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New update: now she told my friend a few days ago, that she is sorry? what do i tell her? but, i dont know if i should say anything at all. cuz she had the baby, nd i was supposed to be the godmother and i found out through someone else that she had him.
well I didnt see this b4 i replied pero like i said dejala...or if u want keep on trying 2 gt at her ( not like that lol ) and if she doesnt reply o nada well like i said just know deep inside that u did ur best 2 "re new" yalls relationship....
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of course....keep us updated on the situation....
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Do what feels right to you. Different reactions from different people...do whats going to keep you at peace in the end. Whether it be having her as a friend or not.
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awww mamita its ok.......just let it go but don't do it in a bad way if she needs u or is ever in need just be the good friend u are and help her out
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x2 homie... y gracias chaparita, mimi, dannie, professora, lady dreamer, dreamer, nd ghost!
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