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Default relationships: are you the "adventurer" or the "planner"

those currently in a relationship, are you the one who plans everything out or you the one that doesn't and just likes to live day by day and see "what happens"?

Those who are not in a relationship, what role do you usually take?

I think it's important to find the opposite in this respect. If you are planner, it's good to find someone spontaneous who will break you out that routine from time to time.

If you spontaneous, it's important to have someone organized to bring a little order into your life.

Two spontaneous people, will bring a lot of chaos and disorganization in a relationship. Might be a fun relationship but very hectic and no sense of direction.

Two highly organized people, will most likely live boring lives without any sense of adventure.

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also I don't think it's possible to be adventurous and a planner. You can have a little of the other trait but you are either one or the other. I think this is why we need to find someone who will complement us in this respect.

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im usually the planner..lol thats just how the cookies are for me..hehe
although i do have an adventurer in me enough to feed my other halfs needs lol but like u said u cant be both so im the planner usually..i like it that way sometimes as long as they have a lil planner in them as well
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I think it's important to find the opposite in this respect. If you are planner, it's good to find someone spontaneous who will break you out that routine from time to time.

If you spontaneous, it's important to have someone organized to bring a little order into your life.

Two spontaneous people, will bring a lot of chaos and disorganization in a relationship. Might be a fun relationship but very hectic and no sense of direction.

Two highly organized people, will most likely live boring lives without any sense of adventure.

thoughts?

also I don't think it's possible to be adventurous and a planner. You can have a little of the other trait but you are either one or the other. I think this is why we need to find someone who will complement us in this respect.
Isnt this why they say opposites attract?

I am adventurous, but a cautious one.
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I'm def the adventurer, i hate to have things planned out. I like to wake up in the morning not knowing what the fuck is going on and just figure things out as they go...
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lol! When I am in a relationship I tend to be a planner. I try to be spontaneous but my nature and quirks will not allow it, I want to know where we are going, what we are doing and when, everything has a time and a purpose, hey in my defense I am a mom and a busy lady but I still gotta make time for my man as long as it is on the calander.
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I think I lean a little more on the planner side too.. although I can also be quite adventurous.
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I'm the planner, but I like to throw the "rules" out the window sometimes but I'm usually known for my organization skills and planning out events... but like Raven said, I want to know everything to the T .. who when where why and how
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^^^^^^^^^^^Good to know my lil dove! That I am not alone! And I am always wanting to plan things out this way I know what to expect I like to be able to predict things and not have a surprise, I hate surprises by the way.
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I want to know everything to the T .. who when where why and how
Well that's annoying!
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^^^^^ How is this annoying? For instance if you alwys fly by the seat of your pants than how can you be sure that there will be availability at your fave restaurant, you show up in time for the movie instead of bumming around wasting time before it starts when you could have planned to do something until the flick started? The Bed and Breakfast had vacancy? The walk on the beach didnt end up in you being unprepared and wearing the wrong attire? C'mon planning must be done at some point.
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Lol Silly man isnt not ness. a bad thing its just the fact that like Raven said... no surprises... its not like im telling my man ok on monday morning at exactly 8 am we r gonna have sex for 20 minutes in the bedroom in the missionary position...
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Well, I actually love surprises and I don't need to know everything everything, but it irks me to be at the low end of communication.. I at least need some info..
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^^^^^ How is this annoying? For instance if you alwys fly by the seat of your pants than how can you be sure that there will be availability at your fave restaurant, you show up in time for the movie instead of bumming around wasting time before it starts when you could have planned to do something until the flick started? The Bed and Breakfast had vacancy? The walk on the beach didnt end up in you being unprepared and wearing the wrong attire? C'mon planning must be done at some point.
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Lol Silly man isnt not ness. a bad thing its just the fact that like Raven said... no surprises... its not like im telling my man ok on monday morning at exactly 8 am we r gonna have sex for 20 minutes in the bedroom in the missionary position...
I still think it's annoying.

And Raven, I get your point and I can't disagree with you. Not planning shit out like you mentioned has bitten me in the ass several times.

I guess I just hate to plan shit out because I'll think about it too much and get nervous and end up fucking it up. So i just let the wind carry me...
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Thats y u need a girl that plans shit out.. that way it saves you the trouble and makes her happy... usually us girls dont even tell u whats goin on in our brain... but its usually our plans... I do like to do spare of the moment type things and get a little crazy but still I have my limits..
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Thats y u need a girl that plans shit out.. that way it saves you the trouble and makes her happy... usually us girls dont even tell u whats goin on in our brain... but its usually our plans... I do like to do spare of the moment type things and get a little crazy but still I have my limits..
You're right Queenie!

Now I gotta find myself a little planner...
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I still think it's annoying.

And Raven, I get your point and I can't disagree with you. Not planning shit out like you mentioned has bitten me in the ass several times.

I guess I just hate to plan shit out because I'll think about it too much and get nervous and end up fucking it up. So i just let the wind carry me...
lolz! You are funny. Nervous? I can see where anticipation may be felt and the last prayer you have hoping that everything will go as "Planned" I say planning is reliable this way you have an idea of what to expect and if something goes awry you can be like you and switch to plan "B" I guess it takes two type of people to be together a Planner and a adventurous person that way the planner can plan and if the plan goes sour the more spontaneous of the 2 has the hindsight to pull something out making it a nice day/night.
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lolz! You are funny. Nervous? I can see where anticipation may be felt and the last prayer you have hoping that everything will go as "Planned" I say planning is reliable this way you have an idea of what to expect and if something goes awry you can be like you and switch to plan "B" I guess it takes two type of people to be together a Planner and a adventurous person that way the planner can plan and if the plan goes sour the more spontaneous of the 2 has the hindsight to pull something out making it a nice day/night.
Yeah, I gotta find my opposite match I suppose. It just annoys me to be planning stuff out, really irritates me. I don't mind other people planning stuff out, as long as I don't have a rigid schedule or plan to follow myself...
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You're right Queenie!

Now I gotta find myself a little planner...
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Yeah, I gotta find my opposite match I suppose. It just annoys me to be planning stuff out, really irritates me. I don't mind other people planning stuff out, as long as I don't have a rigid schedule or plan to follow myself...
Back to my point, find a planner!
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I'm the planner .. I don't hate surprises, but they're def not one of my favorite things in life ..
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I am deft not a planner, I hate planning things because they NEVER turn out like i want them to, So I just live day by day.
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I like to keep her in a love story of mystery.

The unexpected nerve when she is in a random place at a random time.

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For eternity she will have a treasure of experiences to cherish about her life and only love.
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I like to plan things, but i plan them loosely. I usually forget something and it is definatly not the end of the fucking world, just do something else.

But i dont know if i call myself a planner.
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