How men cope...

I got the idea to write about this subject from mrarts thread on hating the world.

Someone suggested that he talk to someone about how he feels....but how gay is that?

No really, what I mean is maybe it's me, or maybe its a guy thing, but I don't really see myself talking to anyone about my problems. Maybe in such a way that it's just a general converstation about any which topic, but never actually about how I feel. Maybe once in a blue moon, or vary rarely.

Anyway, I suppose some men do express themselves more freely then others, but who knows for sure?

Guys....do you talk about 'it' with your loved ones or do you cope alone?

[KoolArrow]

Originally Posted by SuaveHighTimes

Someone suggested that he talk to someone about how he feels....but how gay is that?

SuaveHighTimes gay?


But seriously, I don't have a problem talking about my feelings and see no reason why anyone should.

Pretending like one doesnt have feelings and fears isnt manly at all. In fact, it's the complete opposite IMO.

[SDx]

I don't talk about them because i hate when people try to "solve" my problems or give me unwanted advice.

I HAVE talked to people who strictly listen, and just sort of to vent, with no problem.

I find it easier to talk to "strangers" though, rather than people close to me.

[mrart]

As for me i have to cope alone. I have friends but nobody i am going to go and tell how hard things are. i have talk to a few people on here about some things and have posted things that have bothered me. Hard for me to express myself with family just expected to do what needs to be done no matter how i feel.

Originally Posted by mrart

As for me i have to cope alone. I have friends but nobody i am going to go and tell how hard things are. i have talk to a few people on here about some things and have posted things that have bothered me. Hard for me to express myself with family just expected to do what needs to be done no matter how i feel.

Thats pretty much how I feel about things. I live my life not expecting anything from anyone and because of that i don't see any reasoning for having to spread my business around to family and friends.

At the same time, i find it pretty femenish when guys have to sit and talk about every little thing that goes on in their lives. Not to mention that even women who have to come talk to you about every little worry can also be tiresome.

Is machismo played out? maybe. But thats just the way i am.

[mrart]

I tried once to tell my sons my what was bothering me dropped a tear and got clled a p***** never share again with anyone again. Do it all and if you go crazy your weak minded hell no better to deal on your own

[Professora]

Originally Posted by SDXicano85

I don't talk about them because i hate when people try to "solve" my problems or give me unwanted advice.

I believe many women feel this way too, especially when they are talking over a problem with a male (friend, relative, boyfriend - doesn't matter). Men tend to want to fix things, and sometimes, we just want to vent.

Originally Posted by mrart

I tried once to tell my sons my what was bothering me dropped a tear and got clled a p***** never share again with anyone again. Do it all and if you go crazy your weak minded hell no better to deal on your own

This is a big problem in our society. Males feel like they can't share things (just as you described), and keep everything bottled up. No one should be surprised, then, when a male blows up in a violent way.

[SDx]

Originally Posted by Professora

I believe many women feel this way too, especially when they are talking over a problem with a male (friend, relative, boyfriend - doesn't matter). Men tend to want to fix things, and sometimes, we just want to vent.

Lol, i've gotten into problems with my gf about this. See i've heard this before, so i tend to not try to fix things, but in doing so, i apparently say nothing at all, which is far worse (for her) and it seems like i don't care. damned if i do, damned if i don't. I'm just not used to doing anything other than trying to fix it.

[mrart]

SD has a great point if women do not want us to solve poblems and we want to listen and let them express themselves how rthe heck are supposed to know when to talk or give an opinnion

[Professora]

^When she stops talking and says, "What do you think?" or "Help me fix this problem!"

[mrart]

Originally Posted by Professora

^When she stops talking and says, "What do you think?" or "Help me fix this problem!"

that simple man that would have helped me out alot 2 years ago

[KoolArrow]

Originally Posted by Professora

^When she stops talking

So in other words, never!

[tecpaocelotl]

Originally Posted by SDXicano85

I don't talk about them because i hate when people try to "solve" my problems or give me unwanted advice.

A reason why I'm quiet. LOL.

[SDx]

Originally Posted by Professora

^When she stops talking and says, "What do you think?" or "Help me fix this problem!"

lol

[esmo]

well, i always like it wen my man asks me for help, like sumone said earlier it only happz onc ein a while though, (like never!)

[Professora]

Originally Posted by KoolArrow

So in other words, never!

Hey, if ya can't keep your women quiet, Kool...